To: Men and Women Suffering From a Lack of Trust In Your Relationship
From: Susie and Otto Collins
RE: A New Way To Rebuild Trust and Get The Love You Want...
There's a phenomenal new tool we've discovered for restoring trust and rebuilding love in relationships today... We call this new tool "Trust Triggers" because when you use these trust triggers in your relationship or marriage, they almost instantly start restoring the trust and restoring the love and connection. As you continue reading and watching this presentation about these relationship trust building triggers--you'll learn how they work and how they just may be the key to helping you build more trust, love and connection in your relationship or marriage...
We'll begin by asking you few questions about you and your relationship or marriage...
- Have you ever been lied to or cheated on by your spouse or partner and you're finding it hard to get over the betrayal?
- Has your spouse or partner ever broken promises before and you fear he'll do it again?
- Has your spouse or partner ever had an emotional affair and now you have a hard time trusting that she won't go further next time?
- Is your spouse or partner's drinking or drug problem (that they've promised to stop and get help for) causing you to no longer trust them or their ability to be honest with you?
- Do you remember seeing your mother, father or someone else important to you cheat and saw how much unhappiness, pain and misery it created in their relationship and life and are afraid that same thing may happen to you too if you let your guard down?
- Do you have a partner who views porn (or has a porn addiction) and you fear that this is a sign that he wants someone else prettier, sexier or more attractive more than you?
- Do you have trouble trusting your partner around money--how much they spend, where and on what without concern for you, what you want and what's best for you, your relationship goals and your hopes and dreams?
- Does your partner seem to be more committed to their kids, their job, social organizations or other interests more than you and you want more from them (but their promises keep coming up empty)?
- Have you ever had someone cheat on you in the past and you have this nagging thought or feeling that it's going to happen in this relationship?
- Does your spouse or partner's flirting with other men or women of the opposite sex (which they think is no big deal) causing you to not trust them and their love because they can't see how it's hurting you and they won't stop?
- Has your spouse or partner ever lied to you (even a little white lie) about anyting and this is causing you to wonder if you can trust them with your love?
If you answered YES to any of the above questions...
You're probably fearful of when your spouse or partner is going to do something else behind your back that will crush your heart and destroy your love even more.
You're probably wondering if you can ever truly trust them again AND...
You're probably wondering if you can ever truly open your heart to them (even though you still love them or care deeply about them)...
You're also probably wondering if you can ever trust in *LOVE* again with all that's happened to you in your relationship and life...
And here's the crazy thing about all this...
In most cases, the very things you're doing to try to get your needs met in your relationship or marriage are actually the very things working against you in trying to create the close, connected love relationship that you really want.
Here's what we're talking about...
The Relationship Strategy (Almost Everyone Uses)
That Ruins Relationships and Makes Trust Building Impossible...
That Ruins Relationships and Makes Trust Building Impossible...
Do you know about the 4 F's?
You've probably heard of them at some time in your life...
...and as we explain in this video below, the 4 F's are something almost every single person alive uses to create feelings of safety and security when they're afraid they're going to get hurt (or hurt again).
The problem is that using one or more of the 4 F's to get your needs for safety and security met may make you feel safe and secure in the short term...
Using any one of the 4 F's WILL NOT help you build trust. Using them will also NOT help you create the love, intimacy and connection you really want with your spouse, partner or lover.
Watch this short video and learn why...
Relationship "Choice Points" and The Importance of Using These Moments To Build Trust, Love and Connection (instead of destroy it)...
In every life and in every relationship or marriage there are these moments that happen that are "make or break" moments. We call these moments "choice points" and we're sure you've had many of these in your life so far. If you haven't, you wouldn't still be alive.
Choice points are these moments when you're faced with a decision and your relationship or life could take a completely different turn or path based on the decision you make in the moment.
This is the way trust triggers work and why it's so important that you use them to start building more trust and create more love and deeper connection in your relationship.
Here (in the video below) is an example of one of these choice points from the early days of our relationship where what we said or did in the moment could have either helped us create a closer and more loving relationship or it could have created BIG TRUST issues between the two of us that we might never have been able to repair had we not known how to trigger trust between us in a very volatile moment.
A Real-Life Example of How We Used "Trust Triggers" To Save Our Relationship and Create a Deeper Connection...
How Easy Will it Be for YOU to Use These Trust Triggers To Build More Trust, Love and Connection In Your Relationship?
The short answer to this question is...
When you start using these "trust triggers," building (or rebuilding) trust , love and connection with your spouse, partner or lover will be so MUCH easier than you might think.
All you have to do is follow this one simple guideline and ask yourself THIS question on a regular basis...
Is what I'm about to say, what I'm about to do, or the way that I'm thinking in this moment going to move me closer to or further from what I want?
If you will only answer that question in a truly open and honest way, rebuilding trust that's been lost will be so much easier for you than you ever thought possible.
You'll also be starting to use "trust triggers" without even realizing it as a result of asking yourself that question and starting to think in new ways...
Why This Is Such a Big Innovation for People Who Want To Build Trust In a Relationship...
Most people who are trying to heal the distance, disconnection and trust issues in a relationship have got it backwards.
Most people think that their spouse, partner or lover should be the one to take the steps towards repairing your relationship and healing your love and as we see it-- *IF* that happens --Great.
But, since you're the one reading this and we're assuming that you want more trust love and connection between the two of you, we don't recommend that you "wait them out" and HOPE that they'll come toward you and start wanting to create that closeness and connection.
While they may want to heal the problems, challenges and lack of trust between the two of you--YOU may have to go first.
Because you're the one reading this web page and you're the one exploring how to create more love, intimacy and connection between the two of you.
The truth is...
It doesn't matter who makes the first move toward repairing your relationship and starting the healing that BOTH of you need to create the love and connection you want.
It just takes one person to start building more trust, love and connection in your relationship.
And the best part is...
You can use these "trust triggers" that we're going to be teaching you here to almost instantly "trigger" trust being built or rebuilt in your relationship.
The trust triggers program we're offering you is an amazing way to make simple changes to your thinking, words and language that instantly trigger the desire within your spouse or partner to feel more connected to you and want to come closer to you in all ways--emotionally and personally.
This program you're about to get access to is so simple and so powerful for someone like you who wants to build more trust, more love and a deeper connection.
Here's What's Included in The Trust Triggers program...
Part 1 is 5 short audios (about 30 minutes each) you can either download to your phone, mp3 player or computer and listen to them anywhere--or listen to them on your computer using your computer's built-in music or mp3 player. In these audios, we give you our complete 7-Step Plan for how to use trust triggers to build more trust love and connection in your relationship.
Part 2 is the recordings called "Magic Relationship Words That Build Trust" where we teach you how to avoid words that destroy love and connection and how to find and use ONLY words and phrases that build trust when you talk to your spouse or partner.
Part 3 is your downloadable Action Guide where we guide you through the program, giving you questions to answer to help you use these new skills and ideas to start triggering more trust, love and connection between you and your partner beginning today.
A Bonus Audio called "The 3-Minute Negative Thought Stopper" with Susie leading you through the technique that's been used successfully by hundreds of people to redirect negative thoughts that can sabotage your relationship and destroy trust.
Here's What You'll Learn in The Trust Triggers program...
- How to start building more trust in your relationship in 10 seconds or less...
- What triggers trust and how to instantly take steps to rebuild it if it's been broken
- What trust really is and why it's NOT what you think
- How to get everything you want in your relationship or marriage without turning yourself into a love pretzel
- How to know the difference between actions that build trust and actions that destroy trust
- What triggers the destruction of trust
- What you do that unconsciously pushes your partner away (even if you want their love)
- When you should "pay them back" for hurting you and when you shouldn't
- 4 games most people play that destroy trust (and how to recognize when you're playing one of the most destructive games)
- What you can learn from an old Bob Dylan song that's at the heart of every trust violation
- How to use "glue" to build trust and heal a troubled relationship
- How to know the difference between what you really want in your relationship and what you should want (one builds relationship trust ...the other destroys it.)
- Our 7 Steps to transforming triggers that destroy trust into triggers that build trust in your relationship
- 4 questions to ask yourself (if you really want more trust between you and your partner)
- How to know whether the trust issue is a small one that can be solved or a big one that can't be solved
- What to do when your "stories" are unconsciously ruining your relationship
- Why you should never fight when you're hungry (if you want to build or rebuild trust)
- The love choice that builds trust and ALWAYS pulls your spouse or partner closer
- How something that you're doing right now might hold the key to lasting love
- Magic Words that instantly trigger more trust between you and your partner
- And much more...
Here's What Makes The Trust Triggers Program So Different...
Almost everything most people do when trying to build trust, love and connection with someone else (especially someone close to them) is about trying to GET the other person to change first and open first.
This trust triggers program shows you how easy it is to start building trust, love and connection when you start with you and coming from a place of "invitation" and "loving boundaries" instead of guilt, manipulation, ultimatums and fear.
When you use these trust triggers when you communicate with him or her, they won't feel attacked, ambushed or like they need to be on the defensive with you in every moment and in every conversation.
They won't feel like you're putting a question mark in front of everything they say or do (even when you're creating and enforcing a loving boundary).
When you use these trust triggers, you'll create more flow, ease and open the door for truth, authenticity and vulnerability in your conversations.
You'll also start to feel like you're BOTH on the same team, want the same love and want the same closeness and connection.
Some people, in fact, report that as a result of discovering and using these "trust triggers," they've started having the first real, heartfelt and genuinely heart-opening conversations in their relationship that they sometimes haven't had in the last 5, 10, 15 years or more.
How To Tell If THIS Will Work For You...
We hate to be this bold and this blunt but...
THIS trust, love and connection building program isn't for everybody.
This program will only work for you *IF*...
...You haven't given up on your relationship, you haven't given up on love and you're truly willing to do what it takes to start building the trust and love that you really want.
Some people aren't willing to do what it takes and that's OK.
But, you're different--otherwise, you wouldn't be reading these words right now.
Because you're here (opening yourself to the possibilities of more trust and love in your relationship) -- we think you're one of the action takers of the world and one of the people who wants something special for yourself and your relationship--otherwise you wouldn't be here on this web page learning more about how to rebuild the trust and your love.
You've come too far in your life to ever give up on love.
You're someone who wants a special love...
...a love with closeness, connection, deep loving intimacy and a true partnership between two people who care about one another and support each other no matter what trials and difficulties life throws your way.
You want to be able to trust and you're willing to open yourself to the possibilities of love one more time.
And that takes courage and a desire for more than you're getting right now.
To start getting more of the love you really want...
All you have to do is say yes to you and yes to love and we'll give you everything you need in this program to start triggering feelings of trust, love and deep meaningful connection between you and your spouse, partner or love beginning right now...
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How to Build Trust in a Relationship FAQ...
Q."This won't work for me. My situation's too far gone for this!"
A.Like anything else, trust is either built or torn down one moment at a time. Although there aren’t any guarantees that your relationship will survive, what we can guarantee is that if you put these triggers to work, you will have a better chance for love and trust to blossom and grow than if you do nothing.
Q."What if I get blindsided again?"
A.Sounds like you’re living in the past and future and not in present moment and you’re worried about something that may never happen. That’s not to say that your worries aren’t justified because of what you’ve gone through–but if you stay stuck in fear nothing will change. These trust triggers can point the way out of fear and into trusting yourself that you’ll know what’s true so you’re never blindsided again.
Q."My partner is the one who broke the trust and violated our sacred vows. Why should I be the one who has to focus on all this trust building? Shouldn't he be the one who needs to be apologizing, making it up to me and being accountable for all the pain he's caused?"
A.Yes–while all that is true for you, the fact is that it does take two people to rebuild trust and restore love. Since you’re the one that’s here right now exploring how to build trust, you’ll be the one to take the lead. Remember, without trust no relationship can survive–at least not for very long. We’re guessing that you don’t just want to have a love that survives but rather one that thrives. Using these trust triggers can work miracles in helping you create more love in your life!
Q."I've heard it said that 'once a cheater always a cheater.' Is that really true? How can I learn to open my heart and trust again if there's a possibility my partner could cheat on me again?"
A.We don’t agree with that belief–“Once a cheater always a cheater” because we’ve seen lots of evidence to the contrary. You learn to open your heart one moment at a time when you notice evidence that points you in that direction. You do not open your heart and trust in one grand gesture. You open it like a flower opens when it gets nourishment from the rain and sun. When you start trusting in yourself, you won’t fear being cheated on again.
Q."Do these trust triggers work to build trust when there's been an emotional affair?"
A.One of the biggest reasons people have emotional affairs is because they feel seen, heard, listened to, understood and appreciated by that person. One of the most important things you can do to rebuild trust and restore your love is to use these trust triggers to reconnect your hearts. When you use our trust triggers, you fire off love signals between the two of you that make you and your spouse or partner want to connect with each other. When that happens, there’s no desire to go outside the relationship to get needs met.
Q."How easy are these trust triggers to use? What if I mess up and say or do something wrong that pushes my partner away and puts them on the defensive even more?"
A.Impossible! If you’re reading this right now, we know you’ve got the only thing it takes to start rebuilding trust and your love–and that’s desire for more love and a closer and more connected relationship. These trust triggers do the heavy lifting for you so rebuilding trust and your love is easy.
Q."How soon can I expect to start feeling more trust and love between me and my partner after I start using these trust triggers?"
A.Immediately. When you start using these trust triggers, they can start having a positive effect on your relationship in as little as 10 seconds.
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“Hi Susie and/or Otto, May I say that you have saved my relationship, I used to make false accusations, be jealous and get angry, though I would not know why, but listening to everything you two have said in your audio courses, I finally understand jealousy and why I am reacting like this. I have not finished reading the book or the audio courses, but my relationship is already improving. Thank you so much. I am so grateful to you two, if it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t know how to control my emotions. And our relationship would’ve definitely ended, which would be terrible since we love each other so much. I didn’t even know jealousy could be controlled, I thought it would always be inside of me…Thanks again, you’re the best!” Name Withheld on Request
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